LGBTQ+ 101 – Understanding Terms, Pronouns, and Allyship

In Aotearoa and around the world, conversations about identity and inclusivity are growing louder – and that’s a beautiful thing. But with so many terms, acronyms, and concepts to understand, it’s natural for people to feel unsure or hesitant to ask questions. This guide is here to make learning easy, judgement-free, and grounded in aroha.

Understanding the LGBTQIA+ Acronym

L – Lesbian: Women (including non-binary people) attracted to women.

G – Gay: People attracted to the same gender (often used by men, but can be used more broadly).

B – Bisexual: Attraction to more than one gender.

T – Transgender: People whose gender identity is different from the sex assigned at birth.

Q – Queer/Questioning: An umbrella term for identities outside heterosexual and cisgender norms; or someone exploring their identity.

I – Intersex: People born with physical sex characteristics that don’t fit typical definitions of male or female.

A – Asexual: People who experience little or no sexual attraction. Can also stand for “Aromantic” or “Agender.”

+ – Inclusive of all other diverse identities not explicitly listed.

Pronouns – Why They Matter

Pronouns are words like she/her, he/him, or they/them that we use instead of someone’s name. Using the right pronouns is a sign of respect – just like using someone’s correct name.

Tips for using pronouns respectfully:

• Don’t assume – ask politely, e.g., “Hi, what pronouns do you use?”

• If you make a mistake, apologise briefly, correct yourself, and move on.

• Share your own pronouns in introductions and email signatures to normalise it.

Common Gender Identity Terms

• Cisgender – When your gender identity matches the sex you were assigned at birth.

• Non-binary – A gender identity outside the male/female binary.

• Genderfluid – A gender identity that can change over time.

• Agender – Someone who does not identify with any gender.

How to Be a Great Ally

Being an ally means actively supporting the LGBTQ+ community. Here’s how:

• Listen and Learn – Approach with an open mind.

• Speak Up – Challenge discrimination when it’s safe to do so.

• Celebrate Diversity – Support Pride events, wear inclusive symbols, and amplify LGBTQ+ voices.

• Use Inclusive Language – Avoid assumptions about relationships or gender.

• Support LGBTQ+ Businesses – Where you shop matters.

Quick FAQ

Q: Is “queer” okay to say?A: Many in the community proudly reclaim the term, but some still find it hurtful. When in doubt, use the person’s preferred term.

Q: How do I learn more?A: Follow LGBTQ+ creators, attend local events, and keep reading guides like this one

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At Aroha Pride Co., we believe knowledge is one of the most powerful tools for inclusion. By understanding terms, respecting pronouns, and showing up as an ally, you’re helping to create a kinder, more vibrant Aotearoa.

Be bold. Be you. Be proud.

Ngā mihi nui

Charlotte

Founder – Aroha Pride Co.